Category: mind over matter

Be The Love Of Your Life

Be The Love Of Your Life

 

 

images[3]We all face a variety of challenges that can beat us down, but when we have the courage to embrace ourselves, accept ourselves, and love ourselves despite our faults, imperfections and challenges, we also open the door to connecting in a more caring, empathic, intimate way with the ones we love. My wish for you on Valentine’s Day is to LOVE YOURSELF. Become more mindful of how amazing you are; know your vulnerabilities as well as your strengths and achievements, and learn to love yourself for both.

Vanity Is Your Friend

Vanity Is Your Friend

You know one of my favorite sayings is “nothing tastes as good as looking fit makes you feel”. I know it may sound kind of shallow, especially as I try to teach my kids that it’s what’s on the inside that counts. But come to find out, there are a few million people who may agree with me, and there are even studies to back it up.

The word vanity can conjure up all sorts of images, and it can even be applied to the bell curve with most of us falling somewhere in the middle. When it comes to motivation, vanity is a great asset. We all know there are so many health benefits to eating right and exercise including the prevention of:

Heart disease and Stroke

High Blood Pressure

Noninsulin-Dependent Diabetes

Obesity

Osteoporosis

But many people think that these conditions won’t happen to them, so that’s where vanity comes to the rescue and keeps them motivated to exercise and eat right. Yep—people just want to look good. (Many younger women will stop using tanning beds not because of the overwhelming evidence that it causes skin cancer, but because it can cause wrinkles. )

A recent article in the LA Times called “In-Your-Face Fitness: Vanity can be a healthy asset”, offers some interesting facts about the price of beauty(including that pretty people make more money), but the bottom line is that exercising to maintain good looks is just fine because it helps you stay healthy.

Anything that gets people to exercise and eat better is a good reason, even if it might seem a little vain.

Who Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?

Who Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?

Turn the ideas in your mind into the realities in your life. You can apply this to every part of your life, especially getting healthy and becoming the person you know you can be.

I was recently telling a friend that the ‘New Me’ does things differently.  She sweetly said that she liked the ‘Old Me’, and asked what I was changing. The Old Me is painfully shy with low self esteem. She wants to do the right thing when it comes to personal relationships, but she is paralyzed at times. The New Me is the person the old me always wanted to be. The New Me starts conversations with anyone, takes time to empathize with friends even when she doesn’t know what to say, and sees herself as confident and capable.

The Old Me creeps back in more often than I would like, but I am definitely a work in progress. So enough about me. Let’s talk about YOU!

I am guessing if you scan the internet to read blogs like mine, you also have an Old You that you want to transform into a New You.  Here is how to start to get closer to the New You.

What and Who do you want to be when you grow up?

You’ll be running on that crazy hamster wheel of life if you never decide where you want to go.  Figure out what’s meaningful to you so you can be who you want to be. Okay, so that may sound a little corny, but this is serious stuff.

As kids we want to be teachers or scientists, rock stars or super models, doctors or chefs. (Samantha wants to be a manicurest and James wants to be a waiter). As we graduate from school, we usually take the best job we can find and hope for the best.  In our 20’s and 30’s I don’t think we really know what it means to ask ourselves ‘what do I want to be when I grow up’, because it often seems like there isn’t much of a choice.  But once we reach our 40’s, it is time. I say 40’s because I am in my 40’s, and there is no going back.

This may seem self indulgent to ask yourself ‘what and who do I want to be when I grow up’, especially if you are a mom.  But please do it. Ask yourself the question, and really think about it in your heart of hearts.

You may not be able to change the ‘what’ part of it very easily, but you can definitely start to change the ‘who’ part of it right now. This may fall into the category of fake it til you make it. That is what I feel I am doing a lot of the time.

So I will finish with my two favorite quotes:

“It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.”

“A mother who radiates self-confidence and self-love will insulate her kids from low self-esteem.”

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