Who Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?

Turn the ideas in your mind into the realities in your life. You can apply this to every part of your life, especially getting healthy and becoming the person you know you can be.

I was recently telling a friend that the ‘New Me’ does things differently.  She sweetly said that she liked the ‘Old Me’, and asked what I was changing. The Old Me is painfully shy with low self esteem. She wants to do the right thing when it comes to personal relationships, but she is paralyzed at times. The New Me is the person the old me always wanted to be. The New Me starts conversations with anyone, takes time to empathize with friends even when she doesn’t know what to say, and sees herself as confident and capable.

The Old Me creeps back in more often than I would like, but I am definitely a work in progress. So enough about me. Let’s talk about YOU!

I am guessing if you scan the internet to read blogs like mine, you also have an Old You that you want to transform into a New You.  Here is how to start to get closer to the New You.

What and Who do you want to be when you grow up?

You’ll be running on that crazy hamster wheel of life if you never decide where you want to go.  Figure out what’s meaningful to you so you can be who you want to be. Okay, so that may sound a little corny, but this is serious stuff.

As kids we want to be teachers or scientists, rock stars or super models, doctors or chefs. (Samantha wants to be a manicurest and James wants to be a waiter). As we graduate from school, we usually take the best job we can find and hope for the best.  In our 20’s and 30’s I don’t think we really know what it means to ask ourselves ‘what do I want to be when I grow up’, because it often seems like there isn’t much of a choice.  But once we reach our 40’s, it is time. I say 40’s because I am in my 40’s, and there is no going back.

This may seem self indulgent to ask yourself ‘what and who do I want to be when I grow up’, especially if you are a mom.  But please do it. Ask yourself the question, and really think about it in your heart of hearts.

You may not be able to change the ‘what’ part of it very easily, but you can definitely start to change the ‘who’ part of it right now. This may fall into the category of fake it til you make it. That is what I feel I am doing a lot of the time.

So I will finish with my two favorite quotes:

“It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.”

“A mother who radiates self-confidence and self-love will insulate her kids from low self-esteem.”

NONE of MY BUSINESS

Here is an interesting concept: Fear is an indication that you’re on the threshold of growth.

If this is true, and it seems to be a reasonable concept in so many situations, it is important to push through it, and realize that you’ll still be standing and you’ll still be breathing on the other side of it.

A surprising challenge for people who are moving toward a healthier lifestyle and changing their eating habits is peer pressure… or the perception of it. We fear drawing attention to our healthy eating habits, especially as many of those around us are still overweight, pigging out, or making choices for themselves that we know are not good choices. We don’t want to have to explain ourselves or make anyone feel “bad”, so often we will make choices that we know are inconsistent with our goals.

Sometimes it seems like we often feel that we have to “justify” “explain” or even “apologize” for some of these choices in the presence of others.

1. “I ate a big breakfast, so I am not really that hungry.”
2. “My stomach is a little upset, so I don’t want to eat anything too rich.”
3. “I am going out for a big dinner, so I want a light lunch.”
4. “I just ate a big helping, and I am stuffed.”

If you find yourself doing this, you may be undermining your confidence in your own decisions without even realizing it.

However, our health and fitness goals must take priority over the reactions and feelings of others. This takes practice and perseverance. I deal with this perception of peer pressure every time I am at an event or a get together that involves food… which is all the time. Sometimes I plan my “cheat day” for these events, so I won’t have to deal with people commenting on how little or how healthy I am eating while everyone else pigs out.

1. “You won’t even have one little cookie?”
2. “I can’t believe you only ate ½ of your entrée.”
3. “ I knew you were going to order the fruit plate.”
4. “You can’t even have a bite?”

Much easier said than done, but a friend of mine let me in on a little secret: What You Think of Me Is None of My Business. Other people’s hang-ups and judgments about you really have very little to do with you. It’s ALWAYS way more about them than it is about you.

Don’t let the fear of peer pressure or hurt feelings drive your decisions. The decision to give in to or resist and impulse usually comes down to a split second. Taking charge in that moment requires perseverance and practice. Make your health and fitness goals a priority by making the right decision in the moment.

Remember: what others think about you is none of your business, so stop holding yourself back or editing what you want for fear of how others will perceive you. Find your own okayness. Claim it. Own it. Practice and perseverance!

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